While we are working on the next phase of setting up our bridal gown Gemach, I wondered what people think when seeing a Kallah on her wedding day. I decided to post a question in a few groups on FaceBook. Here are a few of the positive comments, I have not included names of those who posted them.
"Thank G'd, another Bat Israel that found her half Neshama is getting married! Angel!!!"
"Oh what a day.....enjoy"
"Mazal tov and good luck."
"I think every Kalla should be told that davening in your wedding day is like having a blank canvas- you can paint whatever picture you want"
"She's gorgeous ! Someone's lucky and Baruch Hashem."
"Memories of my own wedding day and feeling the world was filled with endless joy and possibility"
These comments were beautiful and heartwarming. Sadly, some of the other comments were rather negative. How can anyone look at a bride on her wedding day and think anything but something positive? I guess that shows how low we have fallen and the extent of the Sinas Chinam. It also shows how so many project their negative experiences in life onto others, for no reason. Why not think something positive? Why not look at the beauty of what is happening and think of blessings for the couple or pray that they be blessed? A positive thought is good for the person thinking it as well as for the one it is being thought of.
What is your first thought when you see a bride on her wedding day? Are you able to see the good?
We'd love to hear your thoughts. We'd prefer to hear positive thoughts. If you have had a hard experience, please don't presume that everyone's wedding or marriage will be negative.
This post is prepared for you by Shoshanah Shear of Chessed Ve'Emet