Monday, 28 July 2008

EXCITING One Day Workshop - Making the Most of Elul in Preparation for Rosh Hashanah

As Tisha b’Av is fast approaching, it is appropriate to begin thinking of the time ahead. Following this difficult day, comes a period of much introspection and preparation for what will be in the coming year. Indeed the two letters for the month of Av – Aleph Beit stand for Elul Ba – Elul is coming – a sign to begin preparing already for Elul and the upcoming festivals.

Leiv Esther is offering an exciting program for women, providing the opportunity to discover the kind of woman they wish to be for the coming year - what areas they need to work on during Elul, what goals and action plans can be set for the New Year that is fast approaching. We will also look at how we can best utilise our role as Jewish women to help in hastening the Final Redemption.

This fun, creative, action packed day will take place on

Wednesday 13th Augsut 2008

We will begin, G-d willing at 9.30 a.m. with introductions, signing-in etc, followed by some creative exploration. We will break for a delicious brachah party for lunch, followed by more exciting activities and will end our day at 4 p.m. (bli neder)

With some Torah thoughts to inspire us, we will draw on a range of exercises using our inner, creativity to become more of who we are. Just as a flower opens up, revealing its true and inner beauty, so too, through these exercises and thoughts of what to do during the month of Elul, we aim to help you as Jewish Women to open up to be who you really are. In this way, may we build the vessels necessary to receive brachah in every area of our lives for good, a good that is revealed, manifest and visible.

Where: The workshop will take place in our Yeshiva, in the beautiful setting of Beitar Illit, overlooking the hills that surround Yerushalayim.

Cost for the day is NIS 250 including the lunch.

Pre-registration is essential. Please book early as space is limited.

To book your place please email or call 052 767 7074

For those worried about credentials, Shoshanah is an experienced occupational therapist, healing facilitator and motivational speaker. Part of her training includes Life-Skills training and use of creative methods of personal development. She enjoys combining her skills and professional experience to assist her fellow Jewish woman to fulfil her life roles and true potential.

Please note, if you read of a workshop that you like the sound of but can not attend on the day it is scheduled, please do email Shoshanah to enquire as to when it will take place again.

Sunday, 27 July 2008

A Word About Lemons

For those of you who enjoyed the Helpful Hints from my Grandmother, here is a word about Lemons...

We all know the saying that when life gives you “lemons”, simply make lemonade. Wise words – always try to find the good in any difficult situation. When one thinks about it, the lemon is an incredibly versatile fruit. It has many useful functions around the home. Just for fun, I’ll list a few. I am sure that most housewives can easily add to the list!

We all know that the juice of a lemon mixed with hot water, can quickly soothe a sore throat. Mixed with a teaspoon of honey, it works even better. But did you know that lemon juice is the strongest food acid in our kitchen – strong enough to kill bacteria? That is why it makes an excellent surface disinfectant. I find it keeps my chopping boards free of stains when rubbed on before washing. For stubborn stains, for example carrot juice, rub well with a wedge of lemon and leave on the board for half an hour before rinsing.

I also use it to clean my grater, after I have used it for cheese. Remember to rub both sides of the grater and then rinse.

Fair haired ladies can use it diluted, as a final rinse, when washing your hair. This will leave your hair soft and shining and smelling beautifully fresh.

If your fingers are stained from peeling vegetables or from gardening, perhaps, lemon juice will help to whiten them again.

Squeeze and freeze lemon juice when the fruit is plentiful, in ice trays – it is wonderful in iced tea on a hot summer’s day, or to make a lemon meringue pie.

And then, of course, you could always make lemonade!

Rosemary Kahn is a published author and experienced teacher. For more about Rosemary Kahn, please visit her blog

Wednesday, 23 July 2008

The Need to Conquer One's Tendencies – No Matter What They Are

The Torah teaches that there are no coincidences. Everything is directed by Hashem and we can learn something from every situation.

Yesterday, there was another tragic incident in Yerushalayim. As it turns out, this took place on exactly the same street that was used for the Gay Parade that took place about a month ago. Just a few hours after hearing of what had taken place, I happened to be reading the book “Despite All Odds – the Story of Lubavitch” by Edward Hoffman. The section that I read gives an insight into the Torah view of homosexuality.

Let us take a look at what was taught by Rabbi Friedman at Poughkeepsie’s local Chabad House on “Homosexuality: A Hasidic Perspective”. As Edward Hoffman relays to us, Rabbi Friedman explained that “homosexuality is a natural and possibly inborn tendency. He (Rabbi Friedman) suggests that most people undoubtedly posses at least the potential to become physically attracted to members of the same sex. He further informs the gathering that whether homosexual or not, ‘a Jew is still a Jew’ and that, ‘in Lubavitch synagogues, we don’t exclude anyone from joining us, whatever their proclivities’. Nevertheless, Rabbi Friedman gently insists, ‘Homosexuality is wrong. Not because I think it’s wrong, but because the Torah says so. It’s a sin, just like other sins. And people are supposed to stop sinning if they haven’t yet. Just because something seems natural, that doesn’t mean it’s okay. There are children born crippled or with speech defects, or with many other kinds of disorders, and they’re all natural. That doesn’t mean we don’t try to cure the person, just because it’s a condition that’s normal. And to from congregations of Jews who are homosexual makes as much sense as having a congregation of adulterers, or any other kind of sinners.’

“Citing the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s remarks around the time of the shiur, Rabbi Friedman stresses that homosexuality can be overcome, and that an individual with such tendencies can nevertheless marry, raise children, and remain faithful to his or her spouse. He concedes that such a person may have to struggle through an entire lifetime to control the homosexual urge, but states, ‘As long as they physically abstain from the act, they haven’t sinned. A thought is not a sin. And yes, people who have to struggle with this tendency are not in a very happy state of affairs. They need all the compassion and support and love we can give’” [1]

How, one might ask, does one overcome a strong tendency? Why should we strive to overcome our nature?

In Pirkei Avos, Ethics of our Fathers, 2:1, Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi teaches us to reflect on three things and we will not come into the clutches of sin: Know what is above you: an eye sees, an ear hears, and all your deeds are recorded in the Book. As the commentary of this Mishna teaches, Hashem who created light, eyes and sight, sees everything at every moment. Hashem, who created sound and ears, hears everything.

And, at the end of every day, our very soul ascends to heaven and attests to what we did that day. It, our own soul (Neshama) signs a page in a book, agreeing that the body it is housed in performed x sins and y mitzvos that day.

Every Jew has the potential to sin in one way or another. But the information as to what sins we perform are private, they are between the Jew concerned and Hashem. Preferably we should do an accounting of the soul once or twice a day and correct what mistakes we have made.

In the Chassidic teaching on the reason for the Akeidas Yitzhak (Sacrifice of Isaac), we ask why Avraham Avinu’s (our forefather Abraham's) 10th and final test included the potential sacrifice of his only son. The Chassidic teaching says that it was not to teach that we do not engage in human sacrifice as this is brought down elsewhere, but rather that Avraham Avinu succeeded in overcoming his inclination to kindness for the sake of serving Hashem. So we learn that every Jew has to change who they are in order to serve Hashem to the full, and for the right reasons. In addition, since Avraham the first Jew succeeded in overcoming his inclination, so too, every Jew has the ability built in his very make-up to overcome his inclinations.

There are many more teachings on these thoughts, which can be developed further in another article. Suffice it to say that the Torah way is to work on oneself in a quiet, modest manner and not to advertise or group together with others who have the same sin that they need to overcome, parading through the streets announcing to all what their sin is. The one that needs to know sees everything even in the dark and secret places. He already knows, and our Neshama, soul, already knows what work needs to be done. What needs to take place is to quietly talk to Hashem and work with Him so as to return to the correct path.

We are taught that the eye of Hashem is on the Land of Israel and on Yerushalayim Ir HaKodesh even more so. By learning the teaching of the Lubavitcher Rebbe regarding homosexuality and that one with this tendency MUST strive to overcome it, together with the Pirkei Avos, may we merit a healing in the Holy City and no further harm to Am Yisrael.

[1] This quotation was taken from pages 94 – 95 of the book “Despite All Odds” by Edward Hoffman

Tuesday, 22 July 2008

Treat a Kallah Like a Queen - Relaxation Package

Getting married is a wonderful time. It is filled with excitement, planning and preparing for your new life and new home together with your life partner. Yet, with all the joy, excitement and anticipation, there is an element of stress. Some find the pre-wedding anxiety overwhelming. Some find that the stress only hits them after the wedding itself.
To help you to feel like a Queen on your Wedding Day and to continue to feel special throughout your first year, we offer a Relaxation Massage Package for Kallah’s. The exact package depends on the person. Some want pure massage, some want massage combined with soothing music and nice smelling, relaxing aromas. Still others want some bio-energetic healing together with the massage or half – half. For others, the customised guided visualization helps to strengthen their faith in the whole process while adding other healing benefits.
Some women require massage as a preparation for being able to get married. For those who have not experienced much touch, who follow the laws of Shomer Negia or who unfortunately had an unpleasant experience, the massage and healing helps to overcome the intense fear that could be keeping their zivug - marriage partner - away.
Some require their relaxation package a few weeks before, leading up to the wedding; or the week of the wedding. Some like it just prior to going to the mikvah. Others after the mikvah to help them to relax and have a good nights sleep before their very important, big day. Others want their relaxation a few weeks or months after the wedding.
Others still come for a massage a year later and even 20 years or more later as a special treat from their husband.
Here is an excerpt of an email from one happy Kallah:
“Thank you again for everything you did for me before the wedding... you were totally a godsend and you provided exactly the type of relaxation and support I needed” (ASG)
One Kallah came to me nearing the end of her first year of marriage feeling a lot of stress. A few minutes into the massage she asked if massage can help one to fall pregnant. She agreed to a combination of massage, healing and guided visualization. A few months later she phoned to thank me and to say she did not think she needed another session. She was expecting her first child and feeling very joyous.
Another special woman was experiencing severe morning sickness and asked if the healing and guided visualization would work. Twenty minutes into the first session she stated that her extreme nausea had eased. By the end of the session she had a BIG appetite; a very exciting development for someone who had had no appetite for over 2 months.
Still another woman booked a session just over a year after her husband died. She had not been able to sleep for the past year as she had forced herself to be strong for her children. Now she felt the time had come to face her loss and difficulty so that she could have a replenishing nights rest once more. She too elected to have a combination of massage, healing and guided visualization, together with some techniques to say goodbye to her husband and forgive him for leaving her with small children. Forty minutes into the session she fell asleep. Two hours later she was ready to return home.
She was going to book a further session, but called a week later to say her sleep had returned to normal and she no longer needed intervention.
Massage is very helpful too for anyone who has flown in for a Simchah and does not have the time to let the swelling from the flight and jet lag resolve.
As you can see, a massage can be very soothing and also has other healing benefits.
If you are a woman and would like to book a session for a relaxing massage, healing and guided visualization, please email .
Gift vouchers, valid for 3 months, are also available.
For those who are concerned as to whether I am a registered therapist, you will see on my profile that I have been practising as a qualified occupational therapist for close to 18 years. In Israel I am registered with the Ministry of Health and the Ministry of Education. I add to this service various other techniques gained from other courses.
Other references are available on request.
We look forward to hearing from you and to sharing in your healing process.

Help us to Build the Beis HaMikdash by Making Appropriate Shidduchim

There is a teaching that when a Chosson and Kallah come together under the Chuppah, it is as though a stone is being prepared in the building of the Beis HaMikdash.
Help us to build the Beis HaMikdash by bringing Jewish singles together with the partner that is best for them.
If you are single or know any Jews who are single, please be in touch with us to fill out our shidduch questionnaire so that we can increase our database and help with Shidduchim.
Also, please send in the Hebrew name together with that of the mother’s Hebrew name to be put on our Tehillim list. Please look at our information on our Tehillim group for further details.
Please note there is a nominal registration fee to cover the time of processing information on each new Jew put on our database. This also covers the time and expense of checking references, many of which require long distance phone calls. We do however give time and care to helping in every way we can that you can marry the person who is most likely to help you build the Bayit Ne’eman best for both of you.
We also offer personal development either individually or in groups for those who are interested.
Some people have asked how many are already on our database. For this we have 3 answers:
1) Each person only needs one correct shidduch. If we had 100 or more who are not the right one, it really does not matter if it is one or one hundred. The point is we are looking for the right one.
2) The more Jews who are single that go through the registration process, the more our database will grow and the easier it will be to connect you with your life partner (zivug). So please email us at either or
3) Hashem is the One who really makes ALL shidduchim. We as humans have a responsibility to put in our effort, but ultimately it is up to Hashem. We do not know which specific kind of effort will be the one that is required from you. For some it is one shidduch; for others it might be connecting with the right families so that you meet at a Shabbos table, for others it is going on many, many dates, for others it will be more in the area of prayer. For this reason we offer both prayer in the form of our Tehillim group and practically in putting your details on our list. For those who require some kind of personal development either to gain in self-esteem, or to learn skills to improve their dating process or guided visualization, or increasing in Bitachon (faith). We at Yeshivas Dira BeTachtonim do what we can to help make your shidduch experience easier and as enjoyable as possible. However, ultimately it is up to Hashem to guide the two of you together.
It is true that today you can subscribe to numerous Internet dating services, both free and paid. Many feel that they prefer to be on such a service. Please know, however, that the difference between a service like that and ours is a personal touch. In our case there are real people looking at the emotions, feelings, needs, values and interests of real people as opposed to a computer print out revealing certain basic information without knowing anything about the person themselves.
Please also note that we do what we can to obtain authentic information, whereas it has been known that many posting information on the Internet set up false photographs and data.
We also add the personal touch of davening for all those on our database which the Internet does not provide.
Although the only one to know all the information of all involved is Hashem, (even someone with Ruach HaKodesh at times has information hidden from him / her), we do what is humanly possible to check out both parties and to keep in contact to help iron out any potential difficulties.
May all Jews of marriageable age who are still single meet their true zivug, speedily, in a beautiful manner and come to Chuppah. May your marriage be a joyous, wonderful experience and may the two of you together build a strong and lasting Bayit Ne’eman B’Yisrael.

I am Proud to be Me - A Lesson in Keeping the Peace

I am proud to be me
But I also see
You are just as proud to be you.
We may look at things a bit differently,
But lots of good people do.
It is just human nature
So why should I hate you
For being as human as I.
We'll live and let live
And we'll get as we give
And we'll all get along if we try.
I am proud to be me,
But, I also see.
You are just as proud to be you,
'Tis true, you are just as proud to be you.
(Unknown Author)
This poem I learned as a song at a camp when I was at high school. It always made quite an impression on me. The poem/song really provides a summary of teachings from Hillel and Shammai, two of our great Sages.
Hillel teaches "If I am not for myself, who will be for me? (I am proud to be me) and if I am only for myself, who am I? ..."[1] (but I also see you are just as proud to be you)
He continues to teach that “we should learn from Aaron, the brother of Moshe our teacher, loving peace and pursuing peace.”[2] This teaching is summarised in the rest of the poem by reminding us to see the other person’s point of view.
One of the teachings of Shammai, provides another insight: “To receive every person with a cheerful countenance"[3] How do we do this?
If we have the self-esteem which one has if one is proud to be who you are, recognizing that you are who Hashem created you to be and use all you have to bring goodness and kindness to the world, then you are free to smile at others. How so? This frame of mind and recognition that every person is created for a specific purpose and that no-one can duplicate another’s role in life, no matter how hard they try, gives one an inner sense of peace. When one feels at peace with ones self and has complete faith that Hashem is guiding your every moment, then you are able to smile at others. In return you send a message to the other that you recognize that they too have a role to play and you are not threatened by this, since every person is unique and every person is important.
May the teaching of the poem together with the teachings of Hillel and Shammai as taught in Pirkei Avos help us to spread peace in the world.

[1] Pirkei Avot (Ethics of our Fathers) 1:14
[2] Ibid.1:12
[3] Ibid 1:15

Monday, 21 July 2008

Helpful Hints My Grandmother Taught Me.

My Grandmother had more common sense than anyone I have ever met. She was also very kind and patient. She was the eldest of six siblings and not only did she become an excellent business woman but also a wonderful home maker and she sang like an angel.

How ever difficult her circumstances, she lived life positively and was never known to complain about anything. She always ended her long newsy letters to me at boarding school with “Do good and be good, darling and life will treat you well.”
Not an easy instruction for a high spirited teenager to follow but I loved my Gran dearly, so I did try!

During my holidays and weekends spent with her, she taught me the many, many things, or rather I learnt by watching and asking questions, which she’d answer casually and kindly, like the uses of bicarbonate of soda – for cleaning just about anything – from thermos flasks to ovens and fridges. She knew how to sharpen a pair of scissors by cutting several long strips from a sheet of sand paper – just that simple and they would cut like a dream.

“Don’t get upset if your freshly baked cake sticks to the tin” she’d say, – “just wring out a cloth in cold water and wrap it round the sides and base of the tin. Leave it for a few minutes and the cake will slip out easily.” And it did, every time.

She told me never to carry more money about with me than I could afford to lose! Wise words, even 50 years ago, when a cheque book was probably the safer option.

Did you know that shiny garments should be ironed on the right side and dull garments on the inside? Seams though, of both types, should always be pressed open and on the wrong side. When ironing garments with buttons, make sure you iron them with the button side down and its easier if you place a soft towel underneath, covered with a clean sheet.
Use a damp cloth when pressing heavily creased clothing or good linen and tablecloths. It works better than most steam irons to this day.

Always rinse “milky” or “starchy” utensils in cold water first, and that includes electric beater blades and anything you may have used for cheese. Hot water causes the fat or starch to stick, making it harder to clean in the long run.

Granny even taught me how to make the best pin cushion. Just take a new steel wool ball and cover it with fabric. This will keep your pins and needles really sharp.

Scuffed shoes will take polish once they have been rubbed well with a raw potato. Apply the polish, rub up and they’ll shine like new! (Well almost)

Did you know that flour never freezes? Keep it in a plastic bag in the freezer, and it will keep fresh for longer AND you will never find a weevil in it!

A little salt sprinkled in your frying pan will stop the oil from spattering and it makes the pan easier to clean afterwards.

I picked up hundreds of little tips from my Gran and most have become second nature to me but that’s all for now, folks! Till next time…

If you have enjoyed this article, please post a comment on the blog telling us what you have enjoyed and what kind of helpful hints you would like in future articles.

Sunday, 20 July 2008

Response to Questions Regarding the Tehillim Group

Thank you to all the woman participating in the Tehillim group. I am very grateful to say that we have been managing to complete the Sefer Tehillim on Shabbos for the past 3 Shabbatot and have almost completed the Sefer for this coming Shabbos.

A number of questions have been sent in and I will try to address them so as to clarify everything for all concerned:

1) We have a rule that names must be submitted weekly and by Wednesday of the coming week, to be on the list in time for that Shabbos. I understand that there are people who have chronic problems and for whom one wants Tehillim said each week. Please understand that we have at present over 60 women who participate in the Tehillim. The group already takes considerable amount of time to organise and I have to stream line this in order to have time for my work that generates Parnassa. Please note, that the Tehillim group and all of it’s organisation is a free service.

To begin with as a time saver, it is easiest for me to copy and paste names sent in as they come in each week. It also saves me from having to chase after 60 women to find out if the names they have submitted still require Tefillos or not.

Other than the time saver, there is a problem praying for someone who has either already received the refuah or yeshuah that they required or who has passed on from this world. For those who have received a refuah, the name must come off the list. For those who have passed on from this world, the tefillah changes to an Aliyat HaNeshama – and it is forbidden to pray for their refuah as this is a prayer in vain. To pray for someone for the wrong thing or when a prayer is no longer required is called a “Tefillah levatela” or a wasted prayer. Since it is very easy for people to forget to notify me when Tehillim is no longer necessary for the person, we draw up a new list every week. This makes sure that we do not overstep the problem of doing vain prayers.

2) Some people have sent in names on Thursday and even on Friday asking for them to still be put on the list. Please note that the list goes out on Thursday. Once we start sending out the list, new names sent in can only be put on the next week’s list, as we cannot go back and re-send all the lists again. In order to avoid the possibility of the name not appearing on a list, please send the names only for the week in question i.e. and not Thursday and later.

In addition, I stop doing all form of work at 12 noon in order to prepare for Shabbat. This means that if a name is sent in on Friday after this time, I will not receive the email until Motsei Shabbos and it may be that in the setting up of the new week, I forget that email.

3) Amongst the original rules put up on the blog, I did request that names be sent in with a capital letter for the first letter of each name. Also, where possible the Hebrew names of both the person and of their mother should be sent in. In the case of an Aliyat Neshama the father’s Hebrew name needs to be sent in.

Please make sure to follow this as it is both more respectful to the person whose name you are submitting and also easier to copy and paste the name in this format. Many people send in a number of names and I do not have the time to edit each name that is submitted.

4) There has been a request to send out the list as an attachment rather than in the body of the email. This actually will be more professional and I will try to do this, bli neder. However, I need to ask a question from all women who participate. In order to keep track of who is saying the respective Tehillim each week, I would like to continue with the list of people saying Tehillim at the top of the document and the list of names we are davening for below this. Does anyone object to their name with the corresponding Tehillim appearing on the top of the list? I do only put the first name so this still conceals the identity of the person.

For additional encouragement, by having the name of people reciting Tehillim and others seeing all these names – how many other women are reciting Tehillim each week, it will help to give chizuk to the group. Please send me your feedback on these points before Wednesday of next week.

If you feel that this has been beneficial to you, please comment on the blog itself as this gives encouragement and interaction between the group. For those wishing to remain anonymous, you can post on the blog anonymously.

Questions can also be posted on the blog or sent to

A final point; someone responded with a reminder that the way to avert a decree is not solely through prayer but through: Tshuva, Tzeddakah and Tefillah. They stated that since Tshuvah is listed first we should insist that all those participating in the Tehillim group also increase in a mitzvah. The mitzvah advocated was that of modesty.

I would like to highlight the fact that the reason for the fall of the Beis HaMikdash was due to baseless hatred. One of the reasons for the Tehillim group is to increase in unity and Ahavas Yisrael.

For anyone wanting to increase in mitzvah observance, this is obviously very praiseworthy. Please keep reading this blog and the blog:, where you will find articles regarding various mitzvos or reading to helping in improving our service of Hashem.

If you would like to strengthen in any area, please be in touch with us and you can either set up a learning session or we can work on a group to strengthen in a specific mitzvah as a group.

Regarding Tzeddakah, it is very good to give a coin or more of Tzeddakah into a Tzeddakah box prior to lighting your Shabbat candles and you can give one that is towards this group. Again keep reading the blog for other ways to increase in Tzeddakah or to make sure you are giving correctly.

We look forward to hearing from you and even more so to hearing good news from all of Am Yisrael.

Sunday, 13 July 2008

Chizuk for Older Singles

The Shidduch process can often be a very difficult one. Increasingly we are seeing older singles and when one is over a certain age, the process definitely becomes harder. It is harder to go out for Shabbos meals and know that you will be alone when others of your age are married, perhaps with children but certainly married. It is hard to keep on putting in the effort required to try to find the right partner.

Some years ago, I wrote to a cousin of mine, Rabbi Yaakov Bear, asking for advise regarding shidduchim. He shared with me a beautiful story that I would like to share with anyone who is an older single.

Rabbi Moshe Shapira shlitah quoted a Gemorra that seeing shidduchim and weddings do not only affect the Chosen and Kallah, but also the yichus and future generations, it is clear that Hashem Himself must be in charge and not leave this in the hands of others. He told the following story from his father-in-law, who in turn had heard it from the Chofetz chaim z"l himself.

In Europe, there are times of the year when Shabbos comes out late, sometimes as late as
10 p.m. or 10.30 p.m. As Rav Moshe Shapira continues, when the cholent was finished and the Sammuvar was empty of hot water, what was left to do? It was customary for the men to go to shul to recite Tehillim before Maariv. On one particular Shabbos, one Jew was sitting next to another Jew and heard how he was emotionally crying out to Hashem while saying his Tehillim. The Jew said to his neighbour, "I don't know you and you don't know me, but one thing is clear, something is sitting on you. Why don't you unburden yourself to me and perhaps I can help you?"

The second Jew responded "I don't believe you can help but seeing as you have asked I will answer you. My daughter is getting on in years and there are no sugestions for shidduchim coming at all. So how can you help?"

"Well," responded the other man, "I have a son who is also getting on in years, he can learn and he can make a living, why not make a shidduch between my son and your daughter?"

Asked the Chofetz Chaim, who were the progeny from this shidduch/wedding? The famous commentator on Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat (Laws between man and his fellow man) the Ktzos Hachoshen and his five brothers, each a sage to be reconned with in his own right.

As Rabbi Bear ended, the real avoda is through prayer.
It also shows the power of one Jew caring about the pain of another and doing an act of kindness to help ease his fellow Jew's suffering.

Please let the story give you some strength that the right one is there for you and Hashem is the one who makes it happen.

If you would like to join us in reciting the Sefer Tehillim each Shabbos, there is a teaching that by davening for someone else who requires what you need, that your prayer will be answered first.

If you are interested in our workshops, strengthening in any area in preparation for building your Bayit Ne'eman, Guided Visualizations to help in strengthening your Bitachon (faith) or wish to know of our shidduchim service, please email

Thursday, 10 July 2008

B'Ohr Ha'Torah for Sale Through Chessed Ve'Emet

Chessed Ve'Emet is selling copies of the journal B’Or Ha’Torah. The journal has a wonderful selection of articles on art, medicine and science all combined with Torah. The journal can best be captured in the words of Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz.

"The B'Or Ha'Torah journal makes a valuable contribution by publishing a variety of articles on the relationship between Torah and science. The special quality of these articles is their significant attempt to discuss scientific subjects from the Torah point of view. The importance of B'Or Ha'Torah is its departure from apologetics. Instead, it delves into the sparsely investigated field of how to add the spiritual dimension of the Torah to the dimensions of time and space of scientific research. In doing this, a double illumination is created: not only does science receive the brilliance of the Torah, but the light that reflects back from the illuminated scientific knowledge reveals an additional facet and more complete understanding of the Torah text."

The journal is about to come out with the 18th edition.

To order click Add to Cart for each volume you want.
Each volume is just 80 NIS (New Israeli Shekels)
(Includes shipping charges.)

Back orders are also available
and can be ordered by special request:

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Sunday, 6 July 2008

Progress of our Tehillim Group

On the 9th March 2008, this specific Tehillim Group began. The idea was for women to come together once or twice a month at the Yeshiva to recite Tehillim in a group. After the first posting for Tehillim, it became evident that there many women interested who could not get to the Yeshiva - either they lived too far away or they had other committments but could take 10-15 minutes to recite Tehillim.

The Group predominanty took place the Sunday closest to Rosh Chodesh. Though efforts were made to co-ordinate this more than once a month, Chagim made it difficult. For those attending the group in person, the Tehillim was followed by a Brachah party.

Very quickly three developments took place:
  • There were so many names submitted for Shidduchim that Yeshivas Dira BeTachtonim decided to begin a Shidduch Service to offer practical assistance as well. With Hashems help the data base is growing steadily. For more information, please take a look at the information on our Shidduch Service or email either of the following email addresses: or
  • In addition some women began asking why the group met on a Sunday afternoon. Some women work on Sunday mornings, some outside of Israel have Shiurim on Sunday morning and some women are involved with their children in the afternoon. To take the second point into consideration, the Tehillim group has been shifted to Shabbos and now takes place every Shabbos during daylight hours, i.e. from midnight to sunset on Shabbos.
  • The Brachah party has now been separated from the Tehillim to become its own service.

I am very greatful to all those who have participated. With gratitude to Hashem, it is very heartwarming to let you know that this last Shabbat we had over 60 women participate from Israel, Canada, USA and South Africa with potential for some to join us from the UK as well. If all the women recited the Tehillim that they agreed to, then we managed to complete the Sefer Tehillim twice and up to Tehillim 50 the third round. Thank you so much to all women who have participated. May we continue from strength to strength.

Some women have asked if there will be feedback on those we daven for. Thus far I can say I have been told that Jews whose names were sent in for shidduchim are now preparing for their Chuppah. One woman who was in her 90's and very ill, died peacefully shortly after her name was placed on the list and her name was then changed from Refuah Shelayma to Aliya Neshama.

The list is drawn up anew each week to make sure that we only daven for those who really need it. Please send in your names by Wednesday at the latest to enable the list to be sent out to other women.

Please note that since we now recite Tehillim on Shabbos, we can no longer make a specific appeal. After enquiring from several rabbis we learnt how to continue with the Tehillim on Shabbos, and the wording is sent out together with the list of names. In this way we now ask that in the merit of the Tehillim and the holiness of Shabbos, Hashem remember those names on the list for the good, a good that is revealed, visible and manifest.

In doing so we also extend our faith that Hashem knows what is best for each person. In this way, someone that we think needs a shidduch might in fact require a refuah first or a change in work or something else in order to open the way for the appropriate shidduch. We therefore are davening on a higher level as we hand the outcome completely over to Hashem.

The list of women who wish to participate with the same set of Tehillim each week is, thank G-d gradually increasing. Please do let us know if you wish to participate each Shabbos.

Please also send in progress from the Tehillim for anyone whose name is placed on the list. In this way you will help to give the group encouragement that there is positive change for those we daven for.

Please also note, if you have not received your list by Thursday night, please email immediately. There are times that many women send in enquiries and hence much work to be done to encourage new women to join in the Tehillim.

Please note, all work is stopped at midday Friday in order to prepare for Shabbos. Please do not wait minutes before Shabbos to ask for your list as your email will only be received after Shabbos.

If for any reason you did not receive any information in time, please do join us, by opening your sefer Tehillim and doing however many Tehillim you can manage.

Many thanks to all you wonderful women who recite Tehillim on a regular basis.

Tuesday, 1 July 2008

IF by Rudyard Kipling

In Pirkei Avos, the Ethics of our Fathers, chapter 4, mishna 1, Ben Zoma says, who is the wise man? He answers, the one who learns from everyone.

This Poem IF by Rudyard Kipling is a famous one. It was shared with me on a few occaitions by the late classical homeopath Dr Peter Lawrence. Dr Lawrence advised reading and re-reading this poem to gain an understanding of the making of a man in this world (or appropriate behaviour). It is just as relevant to women as it is to men. In truth, if you can master this, you will be a long way towards applying many teachings of Pirkei Avos.

If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you.
If you can trust yourself, when all men doubt you, yet make allowance for their doubting too.
If you can wait and not get tired by waiting, or being lied about don't deal in lies
Or being hated, don't give way to hating. And yet don't look too good nor talk too wise.
If you can dream and not make dreams your master
If you can think and not make thoughts your aim.
If you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two imposters just the same.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken, twisted by knave to make a trap for fools
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken and stoop and build 'em up with worn out tools.
If you can make a heap of all your winnings, and risk it on one turn of pitch and toss, and lose and start again at your beginnings and never breathe a word about your loss.
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew to serve your turn long after they are gone
And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them "Hold on"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, or walk with kings nor lose the common touch.
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, if all men count with you but none too much
If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds worth of distance run.
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it and, which is more,
You'll be a Man my son.


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