Thank you for your enquiry regarding our shidduch service.
I had thought that we clarified how our shidduch service works. Since we are still getting questions, here is another version to help clarify details.
We have some quality singles on our database and are always working to increase our database. In this way we help to maximize all those on our databases chances of our matching them correctly.
We have a very comprehensive questionnaire that we have compiled. The questionnaire is intentionally detailed as it helps to clarify for you what kind of home you wish to build and who would be best suited to share your life and your home with and also for us to know who might be a good option for you. We do not believe in just putting Jews together as they are both single, but rather to do what we can to make sure we are helping to develop suitable, strong, lasting marriages.
We have a nominal registration fee that covers our time to process the data and check references. If a shidduch is made, we ask $770 from the couple, as opposed to a fee per each side.
During the process we do stay in touch, offering chizuk and of course davening for you to successfully come to Chuppah.
We also have a Tehillim group with women around the world davening for a list that is drawn up each week. If you are interested, please let me know and I will send further details.
We have 2 other services related to shidduchim
1) We daven on your behalf at kivrei tzaddikim. This has proved to help some that we have worked with. For this we ask either $18 per name submitted, or if you want us to go specifically for you, we work out an amount that suits both of us. The cost covers our transport to the Kivrei Tzaddikim and also our time spent in tefillah devoted to you.
2) Personal development workshops either in a group or individually. These are offered either in person or via the internet. The intention of this service is to assist singles to clarrify certain details necessary to help them get married. Some require additional work to open up to marrying the right person, e.g. I had one single girl I worked with who unfortunately had a difficult situation as a child as was too scared of the touch aspect of marriage. She came for a series of massages to help eliminate her fear both physically and emotionally.
Others require some energy healing to remove blockages, or life skills training to improve self confidence, self esteem perhaps even their dating style.
One single who was really struggling to meet the right one, booked a 40 day prayer cycle. At the end of this she emailed saying that she had been engaged in the past and her fiance had broken the relationship very close to the Chuppah. This had kept her blocked on a certain level. Through the 40 day prayer cycle, this man made contact and let her know that some years after the break up, he was diagnosed with a condition and became disabled. She then realised that Hashem knows best and she would not have had the strength to help a disabled spouse. This knowledge freed her to date correctly.
I am aware that during the shidduch process, it can get confusing and frustrating during times that there are no potential matches being offered. Please understand that this does not equal a disinterested shadchan, relative or friend. They could be working very hard to find a suitable match for you. If there is a quiet space, take advantage of this time to check in with those shadchanim that you work with. A call or email to touch base is always a good thing.
Take some time to daven for your zivug that he or she be ready to meet you and to marry you.
There can be any number of factors that are delaying or blocking the right match from happening. Your zivug could be finishing a relaitonship or learning a section of Torah to prepare for getting married. Maybe they are away in another part of the world. Maybe they are helping a friend to get married. Maybe they are just discovering the wonderful world of Torah and mitzvos and need to open up to a new idea of the kind of home they want to build. We can list lots of maybe's. The important thing is to keep working on your Bitachon that Hashem runs the world and has not forgotten you.
Remember as busy as Hashem is, He makes sure every single day that the mountains remain where they should be, the rain falls where it should, the sun shines where it should, nature all over the world and on all planets in the creation are functioning correctly. When we stop to think, He really has a mamoth task. And yet, He still knows exactly who you should marry, where, when and of course why that person.
So if it appears as though things are not moving, talk to Hashem. Pour your heart out to Hashem. Remember, if you need more help, either read a sefer (book) that will help give you the confidence that Hashem really is the One who makes ALL matches or, send an email. We will be happy to work with you to help you discover what else you can do.
I hope this answers your questions as to our service. If you have further questions, please do email us to either shoshanah.s@gmail.com or rebeliyahu@gmail.com
I had thought that we clarified how our shidduch service works. Since we are still getting questions, here is another version to help clarify details.
We have some quality singles on our database and are always working to increase our database. In this way we help to maximize all those on our databases chances of our matching them correctly.
We have a very comprehensive questionnaire that we have compiled. The questionnaire is intentionally detailed as it helps to clarify for you what kind of home you wish to build and who would be best suited to share your life and your home with and also for us to know who might be a good option for you. We do not believe in just putting Jews together as they are both single, but rather to do what we can to make sure we are helping to develop suitable, strong, lasting marriages.
We have a nominal registration fee that covers our time to process the data and check references. If a shidduch is made, we ask $770 from the couple, as opposed to a fee per each side.
During the process we do stay in touch, offering chizuk and of course davening for you to successfully come to Chuppah.
We also have a Tehillim group with women around the world davening for a list that is drawn up each week. If you are interested, please let me know and I will send further details.
We have 2 other services related to shidduchim
1) We daven on your behalf at kivrei tzaddikim. This has proved to help some that we have worked with. For this we ask either $18 per name submitted, or if you want us to go specifically for you, we work out an amount that suits both of us. The cost covers our transport to the Kivrei Tzaddikim and also our time spent in tefillah devoted to you.
2) Personal development workshops either in a group or individually. These are offered either in person or via the internet. The intention of this service is to assist singles to clarrify certain details necessary to help them get married. Some require additional work to open up to marrying the right person, e.g. I had one single girl I worked with who unfortunately had a difficult situation as a child as was too scared of the touch aspect of marriage. She came for a series of massages to help eliminate her fear both physically and emotionally.
Others require some energy healing to remove blockages, or life skills training to improve self confidence, self esteem perhaps even their dating style.
One single who was really struggling to meet the right one, booked a 40 day prayer cycle. At the end of this she emailed saying that she had been engaged in the past and her fiance had broken the relationship very close to the Chuppah. This had kept her blocked on a certain level. Through the 40 day prayer cycle, this man made contact and let her know that some years after the break up, he was diagnosed with a condition and became disabled. She then realised that Hashem knows best and she would not have had the strength to help a disabled spouse. This knowledge freed her to date correctly.
I am aware that during the shidduch process, it can get confusing and frustrating during times that there are no potential matches being offered. Please understand that this does not equal a disinterested shadchan, relative or friend. They could be working very hard to find a suitable match for you. If there is a quiet space, take advantage of this time to check in with those shadchanim that you work with. A call or email to touch base is always a good thing.
Take some time to daven for your zivug that he or she be ready to meet you and to marry you.
There can be any number of factors that are delaying or blocking the right match from happening. Your zivug could be finishing a relaitonship or learning a section of Torah to prepare for getting married. Maybe they are away in another part of the world. Maybe they are helping a friend to get married. Maybe they are just discovering the wonderful world of Torah and mitzvos and need to open up to a new idea of the kind of home they want to build. We can list lots of maybe's. The important thing is to keep working on your Bitachon that Hashem runs the world and has not forgotten you.
Remember as busy as Hashem is, He makes sure every single day that the mountains remain where they should be, the rain falls where it should, the sun shines where it should, nature all over the world and on all planets in the creation are functioning correctly. When we stop to think, He really has a mamoth task. And yet, He still knows exactly who you should marry, where, when and of course why that person.
So if it appears as though things are not moving, talk to Hashem. Pour your heart out to Hashem. Remember, if you need more help, either read a sefer (book) that will help give you the confidence that Hashem really is the One who makes ALL matches or, send an email. We will be happy to work with you to help you discover what else you can do.
I hope this answers your questions as to our service. If you have further questions, please do email us to either shoshanah.s@gmail.com or rebeliyahu@gmail.com
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