Wednesday, 29 June 2011

URGENT Appeal to help a Chatan, recently orphaned

The month leading up to a wedding is usually a busy time with a thousand and one things to accomplish:
Finding a venue, booking a hall, finalising numbers of guests, arranging for invitations, music, photographer, shopping for new clothes - the list continues.

For one specific family in Eretz Yisrael, a mother of 8 found herself fitting these exciting but busy tasks to prepare for the wedding of her first born son, in between painful treatments. She tried hard to keep up her strength but could wait no longer. The invitations were ready to be picked up, but her Petira came soon after, now the invitations were missing the letters עלה השלום - ע"ה next to the mothers name.

The son, the new Chatan asks "Weren't you able to wait a little longer Ima? Perhaps till the week after my wedding? What will my wedding be without my Ima?"

Sadly, we can not bring back the mother of these 8 children. We can not replace the person who took care of all their needs as any mother does. Their wound will last until Moshiach comes. But we can reach into our pockets and help this young Chatan to come to Chuppah and to build his Bayit Ne'eman. His Chuppah is booked for 30 June 2011. That is just a few days away.

Still within Shloshim, his wedding will be a little different. Please have mercy on these orphans and make a generous donation to help to ease their physical needs.

Thank you for your kindness.

Friday, 24 June 2011

Help a Couple Start Their Life Together

Chessed Ve'Emet is helping another needy Chatan and Kallah. This couple has nothing with which to begin their new home. D-Day is Tu'BAv, please help us help them with certain basics that they need to bring blessing to their new home and to their future life together.

Some of the items needed include:

  • A new suit for the Chatan
  • Two new outfits for the Kallah for Shabbos, Yomim Tovim etc
  • New shoes for each of them
  • New pots, new toaster and other kitchenware
  • Two new bookshelves for the Chatan's Seforim
  • An Urn and Blech for Shabbos
  • Judaica including a Kiddush Cup
  • A ladder, toolbox and household tools
  • Plus a little gift to help them enjoy some time off, or even to get away for a few days or a week. 
We are raising NIS 11 000 or approximately US$ 3200

For those wanting to donate items, we accept any NEW items needed to set up a new home. If you have something not listed, please be in touch. It might be the couple does need it or it can go to the next couple we assist.

If you can assist with a monetary donation, please email us 
Thank you for your kindness.

Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness - 41

This weeks Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness is prepared in the merit of
 Esther bas Nachum Dov Ber a"h for an Aliyah of her soul.
Her Yahrzeit was on 19th Sivan, the same day as Abarbanel.

Ahavas Yisrael Thought

 Esther bas Nachum Dov Ber a"h loved Chessed and doing acts of loving kindness, I therefore decided to share a story that illustrates love and consideration for our fellow Jew. The greatest example of a partnership is that of Husband and Wife. The story is told of Rav Aryeh Levin z"tl the Tzaddik from the book "A Tzaddik in Our Time". Rav Aryeh Levin (March 22, 1885 - March 28, 1969) spent most of his life in Yerushalayim. He is buried in the cemetery in Sanhedria.

The story is told that on one particular day, the wife of Rav Aryeh had a sore foot and needed to go to the doctor. Rav Aryeh who was usually occupied in Torah, Mitzvos and Acts of Loving Kindness, accompanied his wife to the doctor. When their turn came he rushed into the doctor's office first and stated, "Doctor, our foot is hurting us."

Rav Aryeh was so sensitive to the needs, pain, feelings, experiences of his wife that to him, it was not a case of his wife's foot hurt her or concerning him but rather that it was the foot belonging to both of them, that hurt both of them and his desire was to have the doctor treat his wife as quickly as possible so as to ease the pain to both of them.

What a beautiful lesson and a wonderful goal to work towards not just in our relationship with our spouse but with our sensitivity to the needs of every Jew.

Shmiras HaLashon Thought

A continuation of last weeks Shmiras HaLashon Thought where we learned that coming before the Holy Ark in the Beis HaMikdash was like coming before the Holy Throne, here we learn from King David. King David taught us that if one wishes to enjoy the joy and bliss of the world to come, and, in addition, good days in this world, our first step is to Guard our Tongues.

Tehillim Thought

On the verse: 3:6 "I have lain down, and I slept, and I awoke; for the Lord sustains me." We look here at just one of the commentaries on this verse.

In Meam Loez we read that even though King David was being pursued by his own son, never-the-less, when time came to go to sleep he lay himself down. He did not waste time worrying about whether those pursuing him would find him in the night or bring him harm but he realised that Hashem is in charge and he went to sleep. Again with trust in Hashem as to the days events, he awoke and like any G-d fearing Jew, began his day with Modei Ani (Grateful am I that Hashem restored my soul to me).

It is very easy to avoid going to sleep at night or even stopping our work and going to bed, erroneously thinking that things will only proceed if we continue to put in our effort. Comes this verse to teach us, follow the ways of King David. Stop your work. Give your body and mind the opportunity to rest and be replenished. Let Hashem take care of what needs taking care of. And when you wake in the morning, don’t wake with complaints or delay getting up. Rather, as we are taught in Shulchan Aruch, get up like a lion, eager to greet the day and trusting that Hashem who restored your life to you, will Guide you through the day.

The names for this week are found on Loving Kindness .co

Please do read the list of names, as there is power to our reciting these names and appealing to Hashem with the act of reading with our eyes AND moving our lips and mouth to verbalise the names, that He regard the Tehillim recited by this group during daylight hours on Shabbos as sufficient merit to bring Yeshuah (salvation) to all on the list and in deed to all Am Yisrael.

Shabbat Shalom


Friday, 17 June 2011

Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness - 40

This weeks Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness is prepared in the merit of
Eliyahu ben Devorah Gitta for
a complete and immediate Refuat HaNefesh and Refuat HaGuf

Shmiras HaLashon Thought

Imagine the following:
 A Jew is given the instruction to go into the Temple of G-d, stand before the Holy Ark and accuse his fellow Jews of any and all sins that they are guilty of.
Could you do that? Would you?
Says the Chofetz Chaim: "Without a doubt any Jew would rather give his own life than partake of such an act" The Chofetz Chaim continues by giving a teaching from Tanna D'Vei Eliyahu (I,18:64) "When the wicked speak Lashon Hara, it ascends before the Holy Throne of Glory"

We don't usually consider what is happening with the words we speak. Just because we don’t see the Throne of Glory in front of us, does not mean it is not there. Hence we have to internalize what transpires with our words and remember the first teaching of the Choftez Chaim – that no Jew would stand inside the Holy Temple before the Ark and run down his / her fellow Jew. This is how careful we need to be, especially since we don’t see the Temple or the Throne of Hashem. In the merit of our guarding our tongues, may we merit the Final Temple, a constant and physical reminder of the presence of Hashem in this world.

Bitachon Thought

There is a mitzvah in the Torah not to wear Shaatnez, meaning wool and linen mixed in the same garment. The following story illustrates Bitachon in action.

The story is told in the Gemorra Yerushalmi: "Rabbi Hillel, the son of Rabbi Walle, owned a very expensive robe worth 300 000 dinars which he presented to Rabbi Yehudah HaNassi. Rabbi Yehudah refused to accept it because it was so costly. But Rabbi Hillel persisted and Rabbi Yehudah finally accepted it. However, when he examined it, he found it to contain Shaatnez and immediately burned the role." (Yerushalmi, Keleiyim)

One might ask why did he burn the robe, the answer is to make sure that no other Jew would stumble and wear Shaatnez too. Notice the story states Rabbi Yehudah immediately burned the robe. He did not debate, wonder if he could get a good price, consider if he sold it to a non-Jew would it be permissible, worry about how expensive the garment was. His belief in Hashem and His Mitzvos was so strong that he immediately burned the problem robe.

Tehillim Thought

"My voice is to the Lord, I call out; and He answers me out of the mountain of His sanctuary. Selah." Tehillim 3:5

This verse highlights two important concepts. The first is that through our reciting praises to Hashem, He will answer our Tefillos. There is a teaching that even if we don’t directly ask for what we need but just recite praises to Hashem even so Hashem will answer our prayer and bring the salvation needed.

The second important concept relates to the "mountain of His sanctuary" – this refers to the fact that the Beis HaMikdash will be built on Mount Moriah i.e the place we currently call Temple Mount.

If you remember at the beginning of Tehillim 3, the scene is set of King David fleeing from one of his sons, Absalom. We are taught in Tanach that when fleeing, King David headed towards the Mount of Olives where he prostrated himself to Hashem.

The reason for this action was that King David was acknowledging Temple Mount as having significance as the "mountain of Hashem's sanctuary" the place for our Holy Temple.
The names for this week are to be found on

Wishing you all a very good and restful Shabbat. May we share only good news for Am Yisrael.


Wednesday, 15 June 2011

Hachnasat Kallah - Helping Orphans to build their Bayit Ne'eman

In a recent letter written by Rebbetzin Kanievsky, the wife of Rav Kanievsky and daughter of Rav Eliyashuv, Rebbetzin Kanievsky wrote:

  "Dear Women of Klal Yisrael

  In these times we need a lot of Yeshuos. We hear daily about 
   tragedies, troubles and disease and HaKadosh Baruch Hu wants 
   us to strengthen and help Am Yisrael, and the many orphans and widows,  R""'"l ..."

Our Bayit Chadash Wedding Project is aimed at helping Orphans in Eretz Yisrael to set up their new home at the time of their getting married. The cost of a wedding is expensive for many and even more so for those without parents to assist them. Though there are many Gemachim to assist with the wedding needs, there are few to assist with the Bayit Chadash.

That is what our Mitzvah Project is all about. Assisting to build Bayit Ne'eman one home at a time. Assisting to strengthen the orphans whose father is the Father of Orphans, ie HaKadosh Baruch Hu.

Please assist us to help our current couple who are in need of basics for their home:

  • Linen
  • Judaica e.g. Challah board, Kiddush cup
  • Seforim
  • Bookshelves for the Seforim to go onto
  • Pots
  • Other Kitchenware e.g. cutting boards and mixing bowls, colander, glasses
  • Fridge, stove and washing machine

For those wanting to donate items, we accept any NEW items needed to set up a new home. If you have something not listed, please be in touch. It might be the couple does need it or it can go to the next couple we assist.

Thank you for your kindness.

Friday, 10 June 2011

Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness - 39

This weeks Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness was sponsored by one of our Tehillim group members in the merit of HaKadosh BaruchHu
I hope and pray that the thoughts are expressed in a way that will give inspiration to each lady reading it and prompt us to take the necessary action to give Nachas to Hashem and Unity to Am Yisrael.

In this week's Parsha, Hashem commands Moshe to speak to Aaron and tell him to light the Menorah. The word used in the Torah for lighting is not "Lehadlik" (to light) but rather "Beha'alotecha", from the word Aliya to go up.

Rashi explains the reason for the expression. The flame ascends (on its own accord), and that is why it is written that in lighting, the language used is Aliya – therefore you should light it until the flame goes up by itself. Therefore all you need to do is to hold the flame next to the candle and the candle will light itself.

In the old days, prior to electricity, there was a man whose role was to be a lamp lighter. He would go around with a torch, lighting the lamps along the way. In truth, every Jew is in fact a lamplighter. How do we become lamplighters? The Rebbe Rashab (the fifth Rebbe of Chabad) teaches that by first refining oneself, cleansing out the coarseness to such a degree that you can recognise the lamps that need to be lit; then you go ahead and light them.

How do you light the lamps or candles? As we learn from the Chumash, by holding the flame next to the wick and the candle will light itself. As the Lubavitcher Rebbe taught this means to provide the inspiration and information necessary for the Jew who needs lighting to take this and apply it to his own life, thus giving his candle the opportunity to light up.

A powerful story in the media this past week teaches us the extent to which we can all find the strength and ability to help another when the need arises or the desire is great enough.

A certain man heard a sound coming from a few doors away, and after a bit of investigation found that the loud commotion was coming from a group of people around a vehicle. On closer examination he discovered that a neighbour of his had been working on his 3700 pound van when the jack gave and the full weight of the van landed on the chest of the man doing the work.

The neighbour who had arrived at the scene, himself 6 foot 4 inches tall and large build, went to assist. Initially he was unable to budge the car. But as his adrenalin began to pump, he lifted the full front of the van enabling the man's son to pull him out. The effort of doing so caused the son to injure a muscle in his back and the father who had been under the van had sustained various fractures but now was able to begin his work of healing to regain his strength and return to functional life and living.

Even though this was a tall, strong man, still the van was 3700 pounds in weight. How did he achieve what he had? By using the additional strength given to him due to the adrenalin rush that occurs in a fight or flight situation; i.e. a situation of danger and applying it for the good. As he stated, he gave it all he had, and with super human effort succeeded in lifting this heavy vehicle thus saving the life of his neighbour.

As we move now from Shavuot towards Rosh HaShanah, let us keep these thoughts in mind and put in the effort to refine ourselves, so that we too can be the lamplighters to each and every Jew we come across.

As a final thought, The Lubavitcher Rebbe on a thought related to Lag B'Omer asks. He first reminds us that this is the time when the 24 000 students of Rebbe Akiva stopped dying – and so, to which Jew is the kind of respect fitting that these great Talmudei Chachamim, students of Rebbe Akiva lacked? We on the level we are today, struggle to comprehend how the students of a Tzaddik who taught to love every Jew like oneself, could possibly lack in showing respect to their fellow. Still, a powerful answer is given by the Lubavitcher Rebbe. To EVERY Jew, is this kind of respect worthy and fitting.

May we merit to learn Torah to such a degree as to refine ourselves sufficiently to light one another's lamps or to enhance the quality and beauty of the existing flame. May we exert super human effort in assisting our fellow Jew, all the time, not needing a crisis to inspire us to show an act of loving-kindness. May the unity and respect that develops from such progress as we prepare now for Rosh HaShanah, hasten the Final Geulah and enable each and every Jew to receive their Personal Geulah even this Shabbat.

The names for this week are found on our website

Shabbat Shalom


Friday, 3 June 2011

Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness - 38

 This weeks Words of Prayer, Words of Kindness is prepared in the merit of
on the occasion of his Hebrew Birthday, this Shabbos. May he be blessed with a year filled with  
Hatzlachah and Brachah in
all physical and spiritual matters.

Shmiras HaLashon Thought

The Great sage Hillel responded to someone wanting to convert when asked to teach him the whole Torah while standing on one foot : "All that is hateful unto you, don’t do unto others – the rest is commentary go and study"
With this in mind, we have two seemingly conflicting teachings related to Shmiras HaLashon. In Pirkei Avos we are taught of the value of not interrupting someone when they are speaking. Yet the Chofetz Chaim teaches us not to listen to someone speaking Lashon Hara. So which one do you do? If you respect both you and the other enough, you need to listen to his every word but, only as long as his words are permitted and not forbidden speech. How do we know what to listen to and when? Ah, says Hillel – the rest is commentary go and study.

If we ponder this, we will G-d willing come to realise that there are many factors involved and much to learn. Once we master these, being able to make a speedy decision as to whether to listen or to respectfully change the subject becomes easier. Which path is better? Again Hillel teaches us, be like Aaron HaCohen, seeking peace. Therefore if listening to the speech will bring peace in every respect, continue to listen and then learn what to believe and what not to. If the speech is either presented in an angry or dis-respectful manner or will create in the listener negative feelings or might hurt the one being spoken of, then that is not in keeping with Aaron HaCohen and a new topic of discussion is preferable.

Bitachon Thought

In the book on the insights and teachings of Rav Simchah Wasserman, entitled "Reb Simcha Speaks, we find a beautiful thought on Bitachon.

Rav Wasserman teaches us "Bitachon (trust) is when we understand not only that the Master of the World is pulling the strings and making them perform, but that He will straighten out everything. After we have applied all our Emunah to understand Providence and all our skills to become at peace with the Boss, and we realize that with all this we still need Him to help us, then this is Bitachon." (Reb Simcha Speaks by Yaakov Branfman and Akiva Tatz – an Artscroll Series book)

Tehillim Thought

Tehillim 3:4 reads "But You, O Lord, are a shield about me; my glory, and who lifts my head."

There are a number of thoughts on this verse. Firstly regarding the fact that Hashem is the one who shields and lifts King David's head the commentary teaches that it is an honour to receive help from Hashem. The difference between Hashem helping to a person helping, is a person after having acted as a shield is likely to turn abusive whereas Hashem lifts up ones head.

We learn further that King David was put down by many around him due to being a descendent of Moabites through his grandmother Ruth. However, Hashem recognized David's worth and lifted his head to become king, anointed with oil from a horn and as a result the lineage from King David is a lasting one.

There is also a reference to the 6 pointed shield of David being: Avraham, Yithak and Yaakov, Moshe, Aaron and Yosef.

The names for this week are found on

Due to Shavuot, please submit names by Monday of next week.

Chodesh Tov UMevorach, Shabbat Shalom and Chag Somayach for Shavuot



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