Chessed Ve'Emet is offering a unique
package to increase in the Mitzvah of Taharas HaMishpachah (the Laws of Family
A number of years ago, we began a special
project "Purity with Dignity"
assisting needy Jewish women with their Mikvah expenses. For various reasons,
this project evolved into our Bayit Chadash Gemach (assisting orphans at the
time they marry)
We have just had a request to start another
Taharas HaMishpachah project.
If you are a Kallah or already married
Jewish couple and have not been to the Mikvah due to financial reasons, we
invite you to participate.
We are offering:
1) An introductory Shiur for the Chatanim
and an introductory Shiur for the Kallot of 45 minutes each. The Shiur will
take place online, in a group of up to 9 Chatanim and 9 Kallot. Please note the
Chatanim and Kallot are taught separately.
2) Financial assistance for Mikvah
Are you interested? Conditions do apply.
Amongst the conditions, the offer of financial assistance is only available to
those in Israel.
The Shiur however, is available for others too. Please be in touch if you are
interested in taking part and for how to apply and sign up.
Part of our service is to be on the look out for suitable matches for those who have already joined us. As a result, I have begun posting some brief sketches of singles. Our request for today is any men out there who are Torah observant, live in Israel and are interested in marrying a lovely Jewish woman in her early 30's who is divorced with children. This Shidduch could be suitable for someone previously married too.
It's the 6th candle or night of Chanukah. Don't you love this time of year? The candles light up the windows and entrances to Jewish homes. It's a pretty time and a happy time. What do you enjoy most about this time of year?
Yesterday I took note of the paragraph added in Shmoneh Esraei or the Amidah Prayer. Have you noticed how many times we are reminded that Hashem fought our battles? He gave the many into the hands of the few? He overturned the disaster and turned it to joy? He helped us to succeed and to continue to be Nation that brings light into this world. That's quite a thought. On the one hand it's quite a responsibility on the other, it's a reassurance.
So what is holding us back from Moshiach coming? How many times do we need to go through these hard, hard challenges for the Final Redemption to become a reality?
I discussed it a little with my husband. I pondered whether Am Yisrael (the Nation of Israel) needs to internalize just how much Hashem (G-d) does for us, or whether the other nations need to realize no matter how many times they try to get rid of us, we are still here. My husband reminded me of another point. There are times that tragedy struck because we angered Hashem. We need to be careful not to become arrogant with our role in this world, but rather to internalize that being Jewish comes with a responsibility to live life according to G-d's rules. That's a tall order but it's what we are here to do.
So it seems it's a combination. Do you agree?
Since fulfillment of the Mitzvos is what helps to bring light into the darkness and shows the world how to live by G-d's Will, what Mitzvah are YOU going to add THIS Chanukah to help to tip the scales in favour or the final redemption.
If you'd like to introduce a learning schedule into your life, so that you can learn more about Chanukah or the laws Hashem has given us or any other aspect of Torah, do visit our website. We offer Torah learning of the Sefer (book) of your choice, online or in person, individually or in groups. We'd love to hear what your need is in Torah learning.
One of the best parts
of being involved in developing the kind of Torah - Healing Centre we
are starting is that I can use each of my creative skills at various
different times. My latest project has been putting together a Chanukah
Gift from a friend in U.S. who wishes to give a gift for her mother-in-law
This has been so much
fun to assemble. We printed some photographs of our friend's children and
presented them attractively in two of the photo-frames available in our
store. One of them can be seen in the image above. The items in the above image were mostly used in the gift package. The two plates were two options given to our friend from which she was able to chose which set of dishes she wanted to give.
In the image above shows the gifts individually packaged.
The inside of the box we
prepared to enable us to deliver it from Beitar to Modiin.
The box wrapped with a few fun stickers is already and waiting for our delivery person.
If you would like to purchase a gift for a friend or loved one, please visit our website and be in touch. We have many more items in stock than can be seen on the website, so do let us know your needs and if we have it or can obtain it we will certainly be happy to put an attractive gift together or to quote you for obtaining items needed.
If you have a car and are prepared to volunteer some hours. We urgently need drivers to help both in collecting items and in delivering gifts. As Purim is now the next Chag on the agenda, we are in need of drivers to assist in delivering Mishloach Manos on Purim. Please be in touch ASAP if you can deliver between Beitar Illit and Efrat, RBS, Beit Shemesh, Yerushalayim, Modiin or can do other areas. We need to know we can have drivers before we can begin marketing for our Mishloach Manos. A percentage of the sale of our Mishloach Manos goes towards costs for Chessed Ve'Emet and our Bayit Chadash Gemach
We've been working slowly and methodically to begin our lending library. We have one full bookshelf (as can be seen in the image above) filled with interesting Seforim and are about to obtain a second bookshelf. We have many more books ready to be placed onto the shelves. We do still require software to catalogue the books correctly and a bar code reader. We are not really ready to lend the books out until we have everything categorised and all in order.
In the meantime, yesterday (on Shabbat) while quietly doing some Tehillim and learning, we suddenly had a knock on the door. My husband got up to see who was at the door.
"Hello," he said, as he opened the door. "How may I help you?"
"I'm visiting family N a few floors down from you and they said you are English Speakers. I wondered if you have an English book that I can borrow for the rest of Shabbos."
"Yes," Rabbi Shear replied. "It just so happens that we are starting a lending library with English Torah books. What kind of book would you be interested in?"
We listened to the type of book she wanted, went inside to select a few and came out with a bundle of about 8 options. She happily selected one and off she went to enjoy the rest of her Shabbos.
What a wonderful way to start our lending library. But now we have some areas we need assistance with. It seems there can be situations when our Israeli neighbours have an English speaking visitor who would like a book for Shabbos or just a few hours. What are your thoughts to arrange this effectively? After all, if we suddenly get many neighbours' guests coming on Shabbos to borrow a book, we cant write down the information of who borrowed which book and which neighbour they are staying with. We'd need a good plan and rules in place. If you have any thoughts to help with rules as we begin, we'd love to hear.
We also realise that our library would need to remain in-house or be close to us for these kinds of last minute Yidden. It's not so easy, as we did not have the light on in the room we have our library books in, this together with some books still being in boxes, made us select books for her. We look forward to being fully set-up.
Rabbi Eliyahu Shear has just completed learning Mishnayos in the merit of an Aliyah Neshama for the Yartzheit of a beloved grandmother of someone who turned to Chessed Ve'Emet for our Mishnayos programme. He completed an hour learning Mishnah together with commentary. You can arrange this for your loved one too.
If you have a Yartzheit coming up for a parent, sibling, grandparent or someone else who is important to you and would like to be a part of bringing merit to their Neshama, please do be in touch with Chessed Ve'Emet. We have a special programme on the go, learning Mishnayos in the merit of your loved one.
We invite you to visit our website where you will find all the information of how this works.
Or visit our slide show presentation to learn more about why Mishnah is important to bring an elevation to the Neshama (Soul) of a dearly departed.
One of our readers wants to know about pregnancy and Niddah. During the first three months for the purposes of Niddah, the pregnancy is not yet confirmed. "From the beginning of the fourth month... if the woman had a Hargashah (sensation), checked and found nothing she is pure and we presume that bleeding has stopped" (Pages 14-15 Family Purity - A Guide to Marital Fulfillment by Rabbi Fishel Jacobs)
If a woman is pregnant or thinks that she might be and has questions as to whether a check (Bedikah) is necessary or not, the best thing to do is to ask a competent orthodox rabbi, expert in the laws of Niddah. Don't rely on what you find on the Internet. Every woman is unique and the best habit to get into regarding Niddah questions is to ask a competent rabbi expert in these laws to determine what you need to do according to your situation.
If you are new to the laws of Family Purity and do not yet have a rabbi to consult, be in touch with Rabbi Eliyahu Shear from Chessed Ve'Emet. Rabbi Shear is both a Chatan teacher and has a Semichah in Niddah.
Many people become interested in what Torah and Judaism have to offer but do not know where to get started. They may lack basic Hebrew or have some Hebrew but not enough to translate. They may not know where to begin. Which books and commentaries are acceptable and which are problematic. What is authentic Judaism and what is an adaptation.
Perhaps you are searching for meaning, having questions come up for you and not sure where to begin to look or who to ask.
The images here show just a few of the types of books / Seforim available. Or ones dilemma looking at a pile of books you know might be good for you and no idea where to begin or how to reach that certificate of achievement that lies at the top.
If any of these are true for you, do be in touch with Chessed Ve'Emet. We offer Torah learning on line and in person at your own pace. If you need to learn to read Hebrew we are happy to teach you. If you are already reading Hebrew but not yet able to learn, we'd love to help you too. And if you have done some learning and wish to delve into a different Sefer to text, we'd love to help you to reach your Torah learning goals too.
Please visit our website and be in touch to schedule an appointment to discuss what your level or Torah learning is and what your goals are. If you do not yet have goals, not to worry, we can assist you to develop appropriate goals for your stage of life and level of learning.
We look forward to chatting with you and learning together.
There's been quite a bit of discussion happening over the topic of men over 50 years old wanting to marry a woman much younger who will give him children. For the most part, women are not happy with this.
Someone on my FaceBook commented I'll say it bluntly: women are not baby machines! And kids are not prized possessions to display. I'm really wary of men who want a wife who will produce babies for him. It is a mind set that sets off red flags for me. Any
guy over 50 who wants to get married solely for the baby machine affect
is not a guy who is really ready to commit to the real work it takes,
to build a true Bayis Ne'eman.
As the comments from women continue to stream in, we have not had any solutions offered.
What do you look for in a spouse or a Shidduch? Do you think of similar interests? Do you think of similar lifestyles or life goals? Do you look at the persons attributes? There is a lot more to a successful Shidduch than whether the woman is of an age to provide children.
Also, what will you do if you work so hard, finally find the right Shidduch. On paper it all seems perfect and then, OH DEAR? Nothing happens. What will you do if the Shidduch is based ONLY on children and after many many many failed treatments, Hashem says NO!
You see, Hashem can do that when we least expect it. Of course most people want children and it is good to want to continue the Jewish Nation. However, there needs to be more to your Shidduch than only the age to bring children. You need to know your relationship will still hold up in the event Hashem alters the plan and your goal for the marriage does not work out.
If you are looking for a Shidduch and interested in exploring what kind of relationship will be most suited to you. Do be in touch with Chessed Ve'Emet.
If you already know what your life goals, interests, values and beliefs are and wish to begin dating or are needing to meet more potential Shidduchim, do be in touch for a Shidduch Interview. Please visit our website where all the information of how we work is listed and be in touch to book your interview TODAY. Why wait another moment?