Tuesday, 10 February 2015

What is Bad for Shidduchim?

Yesterday I prepared a post about what factors are harmful for Shidduchim. After a recent incident, I find the need to revise the list provided.

The two biggest problems that are very bad for Shidduchim are Sinas Chinam (Baseless Hatred) and Lashon Hara (Forbidden Speech). For both of these, learning the works for the Chofetz Chaim are very recommended, preferably to learn two Hallachos daily.

Rebbi Elimelich of Lezinsk taught that it is preferable to put everything through thirteen sieves in order to make sure that what you are about to say is valid and has a beneficial purpose. Providing information that will ruin a Jew's chances in Parnassa and in Shidduchim just because you have some issue with the person, is not permissible or sufficient reason to make their life a misery.

Sinas Chinam and Lashon Hara are in fact the two causes of the fall of the Beis HaMikdash. 

What will YOU do TODAY to help to increase your love of your fellow Jew and your guarding your tongue?

This post is prepared for you by Shoshanah Shear of Chessed Ve'Emet

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