Sunday, 31 May 2015

Exciting Addition to our Bayit Chadash Gemach

We are working on a new development. If you know of the work we already do to assist our orphan Chatanim and Kallot, imagine adding Tzenuah Bridal Gowns to our services.

In the images attached here you can see over 40 of the Bridal Gowns and one photographed individually to show the quality.

We are obtaining them from someone who is going overseas and require NIS 100 per gown. There are 60 of them. We'd like to also add some Bridal veils.

Of course we will also need 2 sturdy clothes stands, a full length mirror, a Manequin and a few other details to enable us to display the Bridal gowns correctly.

If anyone is able to assist in making this new development a reality, please be in touch ASAP.

Thank you for your kindness

Shoshanah Shear
Chessed Ve'Emet

Monday, 25 May 2015

Help us with a New Development to our Bayit Chadash Gemach

We have an exciting opportunity but we need YOUR help to pull it off. Someone is sadly leaving Israel and selling her stock of bridal gowns and evening gowns.

She has 260 bridal gowns and about 36 evening gowns and is selling them at NIS 100 a piece. She wants the stock to go in one go and to Jews.

If anyone can assist us, our goal will be to loan dresses to orphans at the cost of the dry cleaning ONLY and to rent them at low cost to other Kallot to help to raise money for our orphan Chatanim and Kallot.

If anyone can assist, please be in touch ASAP. We do have one donor able to help with 20 gowns.

Be a part of this exciting development. If we work together we can help many more orphan Kallot.

Please email or visit our website

Tax receipt can be provided to those who need it.

Thank you for your kindness

Shoshanah Shear
Co-Director of Bayit Chadash Gemach a Project of 

Wednesday, 13 May 2015

Benefit of a Crowd Fundraiser

Though getting the word out for a crowd fundraiser and obtaining monetary donations is hard, we have seen some benefits. If you take a look at our website, you can see the beautiful logo that came out of one crowd fundraiser.

Today we received another benefit. A fellow OT who is changing direction in the work she is doing, decided to let go of a number of wonderful books and resources. We are very grateful that she decided to pass them on to us for the centre we are developing. If you don't see posts from me for a while, I might just be curled up with a good book, reading the wonderful books we have just received.

For those who say only a small percentage of crowd fundraisers work, maybe. But getting the word out about a dream you are working towards is worth it. You never know in what format support will come. One thing is for sure, if you have a good dream and set realistic goals, start working actively towards them. The items that came in today are definitely a huge saving on having to purchase them.

Thanks to all those who have supported and do support the work we are doing.

If you would like to know more about what we do, visit Chessed Ve'Emet or the women's division in my website Be A Happy Mom, because all women need the role of wife and mother is the highest level of functioning for a Jewish woman. To fulfill these to the highest degree is what it takes to become a not just a wife and not just a mother but a happy mother.

Have a blessed evening

Occupational Therapist, Healing Facilitator
Certified Kallah Teacher
Certified Infant Massage Instructor
Artist and Photographer

Monday, 11 May 2015

Utilizing Graphology toward Finding the Right Mate

Guest Post

You are about to make the most important decision in your life – choosing your spouse.  How much are you willing to invest in order to ensure you make the right decision?  The price of a trip abroad?  The value of a weekend at a resort hotel?  The cost of a new wardrobe?

The central and most rewarding feature for me as a graphologist is being in a position to guide another person who is faced with a critical decision.  For example, we now know that marriages end up in divorce in alarming percentages because of latent spousal abuse.  What if I told you that this element in a potential spouse could be detected in his/her handwriting?  Wouldn't you want to know that in advance?  What if I told you that I can provide you with a detailed outline of the potential areas of conflict that you and your partner will likely face based on your current personality profile?  Wouldn’t you want to have that vital data in your hands before you decide to go ahead or not?

Life seems to be moving along at a record pace.  Increased technology, more efficient information systems, and advanced communication options have propelled us all into the 21st century at great speed.  One day we buy a new computer and the next week it is almost obsolete.  The plethora of unsolicited e-mails, internet sites, product sales, consumer services are unparelled in the last decade.  Things fly by quickly at work with piles of paperwork to do and less time in which to get it done.  Vacations come and go in a flash.  Family, friends, acquaintances all place a demand on our time – we have to work very hard to make the time for them all.

Imagine trying to find your mate in this whirlwind atmosphere.  Hundreds if not thousands sign up for on-line dating services.  The choices are broad, the opportunities seem abundant, and personal data can change from moment to moment. 

But am I cut out to sign up?  Can I trust that what I read about someone is really true?  How can we begin to make some sense and order out of what seems to have gotten out of hand?

Many of you have well-meaning friends and relatives who know just who is right for you.  There are matchmakers who are quite successful at what they do, and many a couple get happily married.  On the other hand there are many who end up in abusive relationships and get stuck in a mess from which they don't know how to get out because even shadchanim are not always privy to all of the information that is out there on a person.  You utilize the tools that you have to the best of your ability, but oftentimes the deeper you get into a relationship, the more complicated it becomes. 

You can go from euphoria to mild depression within a short time span and agonize about whether you are doing the right thing or not.

What to do?

There is a relatively quick and efficient method by which a more objective approach can help you make an intelligent decision.  It is called Graphology.  What is it about our handwriting that reveals our true personality?  Graphology is the study of the psychological structure of the human being through his or her handwriting – simply put, the science of handwriting analysis.  Graphology is based on the assumption that handwriting is a spontaneous expression of feelings, thoughts, and mental and emotional attitudes.  Because it is spontaneous and not totally subject to conscious control, graphologists believe that handwriting presents an objective picture of the writer’s personality.  Dating back to 1886, there have been numerous experiments that have conclusively shown that each stroke of a handwriting sample is dictated by the brain and not by the muscular formation of the hand.  Therefore, handwriting is essentially brain writing – hence, you are what you write.

Today, more than ever, we should equip ourselves with as much firepower and information as we possibly can.  This would not necessarily lead you to reject the one you are dating, although it could.  More importantly, it points to areas where additional work is needed in order to make the relationship work over the long haul.  After all, nobody is perfect and we all have our moments.  Knowing what to expect lowers anxiety, helps you plan, and avoids pitfalls. 

Think of a graphological analysis as that personal support base that could give you the help, the input, or the just the reassurance you may need before making those critical decisions about a marriage partner.


Dr. Bernie Kastner, a Psychotherapist and Graphologist, is a long-time member of the American Society for Professional Graphologists in the U.S. and The Israel Society for Scientific Graphology. Feel free to visit his website at:

Thursday, 7 May 2015

Will the Desert Tortoise Survive?

How much do you know about tortoises?

I did not know that much until a few years ago, when I became aware that tortoises in Israel are an endangered species and protected as a result. 

Have you ever considered that there is a benefit to other animals in the desert due to the desert tortoise?  What can the tortoise contribute?

In this video below, you can learn a little about the desert tortoise of the USA and the important work being done to research and work towards assisting tortoises to survive. The video teaches some interesting facts about the tortoise, including how it helps other animals in the desert.

Crowd Fundraising - 5

I've been a bit distracted from my thread to research successful crowd fundraising due to other developments. Just recently I was talking to someone about the concept of crowd fundraising and she mentioned that as far as she has heard, only 15% of crowd fundraisers are successful. 

Have you heard this statistic too? If only 15% manage to gather support for their campaign, what makes their campaign successful? Is it the presentation? Is it where they promote their campaign? Is it having a larger enough crowd or support group? Is there any key to how they go about their campaign that others can learn from or is it purely a case of their creating a vessel that Hashem then gives blessing to?

What are your thoughts? We'd love to hear. 

Have you had a positive crowd fundraising experience? Are you prepared to share what helped you to be successful?

Post your comments at the end of this post

Have a blessed day


Friday, 1 May 2015

Why is your Book about a Non-Kosher Animal?

Being an author is quite a challenge. Everyone has a comment, question or something to share. Some will have positive input and others like to criticize. We have had some question why the book is about a non-Kosher animal. Yes, we do have an answer, in fact a few answers.

The Torah gives Jews 613 Mitzvot and for all other human beings 7 Mitzvot. The 7 Mitzvot are termed Sheva Mitzvot Bnei Noach or 7 commandments given to all children of Noach. Since Noach was the one who saved his wife, 3 sons and their wives and pairs of all the animals and 7 pairs of the Kosher animals, it stands to reason that all human beings living today come from Noach.

As we see, Noach took the trouble to take care of all of the animals, large and small, not only the Kosher animals. In addition, the lion taught an important lesson to Noach and to anyone who reads the Parshah of Noach. The Midrash teaches us that on a certain day Noach was a little late to feed the lion and for this he was swiped by the lion. The swipe from the lion resulted in his Noach's limping for the rest of his life.

The lion is a non-Kosher animal but teaches us an important lesson in being kind to animals. To begin with, we are to be very careful to feed them on time, in fact Jews who have pets have to make sure to feed their animals / pets before they sit down to eat.

As we can see, the Chumash (five books of the Torah) refers to animals, the lessons we learn from them and how to be kind to animals and all of creation.

We have many more stories to share and other reasons why our first book is about Tuvia, a reptile and yes a non-Kosher animal. Before we proceed, we'd like to highlight that this is our first book. We do not intend for it to be our last.

Stay tuned for further books and yes, we do hope to write about Kosher animals too.

Thank you for asking and for your concern. It is important to guard our eyes but equally important to show the appropriate kindness and respect to all of creation. If that means learning from all animals, if Chumash can mention non-Kosher animals then that in itself is an important lesson.

This post is prepared by Shoshanah Shear of Chessed Ve'Emet


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