Friday, 21 July 2017

The Need for Respect and the Right of others to Sleep

I've been grappling with whether to write this or not. In the end I have decided to write in order to:

1) get this frustration off my chest and
2) to educate - if nothing else hopefully about respect

What is the issue?

Well, there are a number of factors involved but two experiences this week highlight the problem. Early in the week I received a phone call at 22h30 that means half past ten at night! The phone call was someone wanting to inquire about one of my services. Now I do need to state that I want clients, I enjoy clients but there has to be a little respect here. Please keep in mind I am not an emergency health care service. The service that I offer does not take place at ten thirty at night. I have hours and they are day time hours and yes I am permitted to set my own hours.

The next call was last night at 22h45. That means quarter to eleven at night. The person called this morning again at an inappropriate time. This person wanted to know about my bridal gowns.

I am very sorry, my bridal gowns are part of a service that have hours from 9 am - 6 pm or 9h00 - 18h00 or nine in the morning until six in the evening. The days that this service is open is Sunday, which in Israel is a work day, until Thursday.

For anyone wanting after hours services, there is an additional charge. My after hours fee is double my regular fee. Why? Because the night is the time for sleep. While I am learning the hard way that there are many who don't seem to understand the concept of sleep. Sleep is a very important part of our daily lives in order to function effectively during the day. One important part is being able to sleep for enough hours. Now if I need to get up at 6 am or six in the morning and I need eight hours of sleep because that is the amount of sleep that all normal human beings require, then I can not be talking on the phone at 22h30, I need already be in bed and asleep by that time.

What it translates to is that people are no longer respecting the health of their fellow human being. If you are up making phone calls at the time of night that the other person needs to be asleep and you are living in the very same city, then you know what? Well since most don't understand I will spell it out. Logic says that you are not getting to bed at the right time either! That means that you will also be suffering from sleep deprivation which is a problem if you wish to function effectively and maintain good health.

So, for the late callers who think that inquiring about bridal gowns in the middle of the night or another service related to brides and weddings, or the OT services that I offer, is acceptable behaviour the news is that it is not. The Model of Human Occupation has an important section on developing healthy habits and routines. The first step is to make sure that you get to bed on time in order to get enough sleep and to function the next day to the best of your ability. If you are not getting to bed on time or if you can not sleep, then you are welcome to sign up for occupational therapy sessions to help you to develop the respect, habits and routines to enable you to sleep at night.

Do keep in mind that my occupational therapy services are private and no I do not charge the rates of the co-pay that would be paid to the health insurance or Kupat Cholim. Just like I expect you to respect my right to health which includes sleep time, I expect you to respect my working privately and to pay effectively.

If you are not able to do either, then please do not complain if you end up with a chronic illness or injury. There is enough research and enough examples of those who die young or develop all kinds of illnesses and injuries from not taking care of their health. Once again, if you do not respect the right to life and health, please keep your poor habits and routines to yourselves and do not impact on the lives of others by calling for day time services at night.

Thank you for reading this. I do hope it will give you some insight as to the problems involved. In short, anyone who disturbs the sleep of another is stealing their sleep which is theft, and forbidden by the Torah.

I bless you to develop a lifestyle and mindset that will promote health for you, for your family and for all those you interact with.

Have a blessed Friday and a restful Shabbat

Sunday, 11 June 2017

Challenges with Crowd Fundraisers

Do you want to succeed? Of course you do. Most of us want to. But now comes the challenge, does your success include your fellow succeeding too or in your succeeding would you prefer your fellow to struggle or even to fall, G-d forbid?

Previously on this blog I have shared posts about doing crowd fundraisers. It is supposed to be a popular way to bring in the funds necessary to progress in various areas of one's life. Some people use it to meet personal goals such as medical expenses, making a wedding, I have even seen some ask for help in order to take a much needed vacation. Some use it for business. There are different platforms and hence different potential groups of supporters.

Some view crowd fundraisers as begging. But that is not really what is happening. You see, everyone needs help in some form or another. No-one can make it on their own as Arnold Swartzeniger shares.
The world is built on kindness and it is the act of one human being helping another that enables the world to continue. 

So you see, when we stop judging the one who is asking for help and step back and recognize that helping another is a magical and very powerful thing to do, then crowd fundraising can be viewed in a whole different light.

I have tried raising funds for my health needs. That did not generate too much. I have tried to raise funds to edit a book that I wrote before the one I just brought out. It is strange how so many do not believe there are any expenses involved in taking the time to sit down and work for hours and hours, weeks and months polishing a 250 - 300 page book. So that fundraiser did not quite work.

I have tried to do a campaign towards various different sections of the centre we've been working on for some years now. So far the two that attracted the most attention were our Torah lending library and the need to market our services. Well, now I have extended these two into a campaign for our own books. You see, an effective method of marketing is to have a book of your own available. It opens doors to doing book talks, workshops, sharing with others that you know enough to have written a book.

When I first started to prepare a crowd fundraiser in order to promote my OT book effectively, someone I knew in CT many years ago made contact. He said to me that he had managed several successful campaigns that brought in thousands of dollars, I forget the exact amount but at least over 20 000. He persuaded me to invest in promoting a campaign. So that campaign I tried FaceBook ads and pay per click ads on several websites. That campaign did not do very well. Rather interesting!

I have been running a campaign now for the last 20 plus days. For this one I met someone who does PR related to books. She has had success with two different campaigns so I got excited. She's been sharing, I've been sharing and for this campaign currently we are covering the service fee to Indiegogo, the bank fees for receiving US dollars and then transferring the funds to Israeli Shekels. If I am lucky I might have $20 and that does not yet cover the cost of this PR lady. She's really sweet and says she believes in my work, but right now we have to bring in more funds. 

This leaves me very confused. Is it the campaign topic or is it best to just do one's campaign on your own and not spend on advertising and promotion especially when you don't have the funds to spend?

I don't yet have the answer to that. All I can say is that we have just 3 days left of this current campaign. I appeal to you to please click on this link and view my campaign. Please can you do me a huge favour and share the campaign. If you don't like the amount I was aiming for, then please help me to cover the $100 I currently owe this very sweet PR lady. Another urgent need is $250 to replace our tablet as there is certain work we do via the tablet that we are losing out on by not having it. So that would require $350. If we can bring in a little more, there are a few coaches I have identified who can help me to progress in being able to earn from home, which I need for my own health. One is to progress with my writing as I increase my ghostwriting service. Her fee is $300 a month. Then there is an OT or a PT who have said for a few years now that they could coach me into being successful with my private practice. Successful enough for my practice to be viable rather than 1-5 at a time which is not yet enough to cover bills. Their fee is also $300. Or you could assist me to take a coaching course and I could offer coaching online and charge the $300 myself. I have not yet figured out the fee for a coaching course or which one would be suitable for me. It is somewhere in a few thousand dollars which is the reason I have not yet done a coaching course.

Another important goal is to be able to gift a number of copies in order to get reviews. Reviews are very important, especially on Amazon and Goodreads. So we need at least $200 if not more to get reviews happening. 

So let's say you don't like our plans for our publications but you want a smaller goal. How about $600 for two months with the writing coach and perhaps two sessions with the OT coach and then $2000 to do a coaching course myself. Plus the cost for the PR lady and the tablet. Do I dare mention we need to repair or replace our cameras?

Well, if I could improve my freelance writing and master the ghostwriting section, hopefully I would earn what I need to repair our cameras. So how about helping me to at least meet the lower target of $3600 - $5000. That would help a lot.

Thank you for caring.

If you are wondering what my health problem has been and why working from home is the only way I can manage my health, well that is the topic of the book that is over 250 pages and is sitting waiting for me to have the financial means to sit and edit it. And my challenge with working from home is the topic of another book that yes, has been started.

Have a wonderful day and an even better Shabbat. Oh and if you share my campaign, please let me know your email address so that I can send you the PDF of the poem and drawing that I promised.

Wednesday, 24 May 2017

Bridal Gowns for Sale in Jerusalem 2

A few days ago I began a series of posts to showcase some of our bridal gowns. As mentioned we are selling our bridal gowns and will then be closing our Gemach. No, it is not yet closed, it requires selling up our stock in order to close.

Here are the next 3 bridal gowns. I apologize, my proper camera has an error 99, hence I am not able to photograph them properly. I also do not have a mannequin or a model. I hope you will get an idea of the types of gowns we have in stock despite our lack of adequate equipment.

Selling the gowns will enable us to repair our cameras and bring back our photography as an income stream. It will also help us to pay off the expenses that have accrued, the greatest expense being rent to house the gowns. Costs for marketing also add up.

These bridal gowns were going to be the start of a special service to empower orphans at the time they marry. Sadly we were not able to bring in the necessary funds to fulfill the full plan for this service. We have not given up entirely though, just needing to regroup and find other avenues that will help us to reach our goals. Perhaps we will add bridal gowns back into the centre we are developing, further down the road. That remains to be seen.

In the meantime, please help us to spread the word about our bridal gowns available for sale. If you know anyone who has a bridal gown rental store or consignment store, it would be amazing to be able to sell these all in one unit. If you know anyone interested in purchasing one or more bridal gowns in Jerusalem, please put them in touch with us.

Thank you for your help

Monday, 22 May 2017

Bridal Gowns for Sale in Jerusalem

After a few years of working on our Bridal Gown Gemach, the time has some to let it go and move on to other services. We have already sold a number of gowns and currently have 31 gowns and 1 Tuxedo left in stock. While we are receiving a few inquiries, some potential buyers refuse to come without seeing images of what the gowns look like.

So here we go, over the next 10 days or so we hope to share as many images of the gowns as possible. Please forgive me, I do not have a mannequin or a model. Space is a little limited but we will do what we can to help you to get an idea of the lovely bridal gowns that we have in stock. 

All of the bridal dresses are modest, that means there are sleeves at least to the elbow and often full length. The skirts are long too.

The first gown / dress seen here has lace on top and beautiful detail on the bottom of the skirt.

I love this dress, how about you?
It has two material flowers on the right hip and a few tears or layers to the skirt. Very feminine and beautiful.

As you can see, the gowns are all covered in plastic after having had them dry cleaned.
This gown has beading on the bodice that extends down to approximately the waist level.

This next dress has lace in rows. If you look at the image below you can see the covered beads and the bow at the back.

Another lovely dress once again with lace. Take a look at the image below it too for the detail at the bottom of the skirt.

Cost for the Bridal Gowns varies depending on detail, condition of the dress and how much fabric. The range is from ₪800 - ₪1500. Purchase a number of gowns and receive a discount. Purchase all 31 gowns and the price comes right down to ₪300 - ₪500  a gown.

Please be in touch to book an appointment to view and purchase gowns. Our office hours are 
9h30 - 17h30, Sunday - Thursday.

Know of a wedding dress store or consignment shop in Israel? Please let us know or put them in touch with us. 

Looking forward to hearing from you

This post is prepared for you by
Occupational Therapist, healing facilitator, certified infant massage instructor, freelance writer, author of "Healing Your Life Through Activity - An Occupational Therapist's Story" and co-author of "Tuvia Finds His Freedom".

Thursday, 19 January 2017

Finding Solutions to Regular / Recurring Problems

In a previous blog post I share 7 tips for making an appointment with Chessed Ve'Emet. Since then, we have had further encounters / interactions with potential clients or those wanting our services that left us rather frustrated to say the least. We are noticing a trend of people making inquiries and not following through. Asking for me to call them and then avoiding the calls once I phone. Making an appointment and not showing. Sending in a fax and not following up as to whether it arrived etc. I could continue the list but rather than become frustrated I am mulling over another idea. If there are so many who are falling short of following through on something they begin to explore, is there a need for a book on social skills and possibly life skills for setting goals or for following through on goals. 

Where is the problem and what is your need? Would you enjoy reading a book or eBook or attending a course that will help you to:
  • make calls effectively
  • keep appointments that you have scheduled
  • set appropriate goals
  • set suitable action plans in order to achieve those goals
  • draw up a list of things to do according to your action plans
  • schedule time to achieve these goals and to follow through
  • learn how to say thank you when assistance is offered or provided
Please do me a favour and send in a comment as to which of these you would like to read more about. I look forward to hearing from you.

This post is prepared for you by
Occupational Therapist, healing facilitator, certified infant massage instructor, freelance writer and co-author of "Tuvia Finds His Freedom" and author of "Healing Your Life Through Activity - An Occupational Therapist's Story"

Tuesday, 3 January 2017

7 Tips to Making an Appointment with Chessed Ve'Emet

You have a goal, your goal is to receive assistance from Chessed Ve'Emet. That is fine, however, there is a way to go about doing so. There are many ways to set up an appointment. We recently had a call from someone. After I answered the phone his initial question was: "Can I come tonight?" It was a rather odd way to begin a conversation. After a little back tracking and exploring who the caller was and why he wanted to come it became evident that the person was inquiring for an orphan Chatan. 

Now you can just call and say can I come tonight but if you have not reached the correct number or the correct person or the office hours are not at night or there is a prior appointment, that manner of asking will not help you to reach your goal. 

For anyone interested in the services that we offer for orphan Chatanim and Kallot here are a few basic guidelines and some updates as to where we are currently at in our work:
  1. When calling anyone you do not know, especially one you wish to book an appointment to see, the first thing to do is to introduce yourself and follow this with a request for the person you wish to talk to
  2. Having established who you are and made sure that you are talking to the correct person, it is polite and appropriate to ask if x service is still being offered and whether there are any procedures, requirements or how it works
  3. Find out the persons office hours. If the person has hours that end at 5 pm or 6 pm or another day time hour, the chances are that going to them that night will not be possible. So find out what the office hours are.
  4. Included in finding out whether the service is still being offered, find out if any paper work is required. If the organization requires an interview then your next step will be to book an appointment for an interview.
  5. In the case of Chessed Ve'Emet, we do require a letter of approbation to be faxed in by a recognized, contactable rabbi for both the Chatan and the Kallah. In addition we require a letter from a social worker to outline the need that is involved and a letter from the Chatan / Kallah to briefly state why they are turning to us for help. The letter is very important as it helps us to know whether their situation is legitimate and whether their need is something we can assist with.
  6. Once the letters have been received and appropriate parties contacted, we will be in touch to book an interview. There is no getting out of the interview and we have no way of knowing what the needs are and hence what we might be able to do to assist if we are able to assist at all.
  7. Please note, we do not give money and also do not make promises. The main assistance that we currently offer is in the form of our Bridal Gown Gemach.  However any specifics and whether we can do anything further depends on the results of the needs assessment obtained via the letters and the interview, how much time there is before the wedding, what time we have available depending on other commitments.
     Following these 7 points are more likely to reached your desired goal than just inviting yourself to come at the time you want to and expect to receive a handout without even having the courtesy to introduce yourself.
    Hatzlachah with your process towards getting married

Sunday, 1 January 2017

Tips of Details to Prepare Before Renting Your Bridal Gown

I recently posted about how to lace up your bridal gown with corset and laces. In today's blog post I would like to touch on another common problem that I find from Kallot who come to our Bridal Gown Gemach. So far, only one Kallah had a vague idea of what kind of bridal gown she was looking for. Most come without any idea.

If you have not yet discovered your natural body type or shape, spend a little time getting to know it. Do you have small shoulders and broad hips? Are you petite or heavy set? Do you have any aspects of your figure that you would like to disguise or hide? Do you tend to prefer a certain style of neckline? Can you handle shoulder pads? Do you prefer a full skirt, a long skirt, a train? Are you tall or short? Do you have any idea what kind of shoes you would like to wear? The better you know yourself, what kind of clothing is flattering for you and what kind of image you are looking for, the easier it will be to shop for that perfect bridal gown for you.

Get to know types of fabric. Satin, silk, tulle, polyester, lace are all quite different and these are just 5 types of fabric. The type of fabric that your bridal gown is made of will have an impact on how warm it is or cool, how the fabric falls, how easily it might crease, whether or not the fabric is see-through. How heavy the bridal gown is will also be determined to an extent by both style of gown and type of fabric.

Fabrics made of natural fibers tend to breathe better. That is the positive side, the down side is they are the more expensive fabrics and also might crease more easily. These details will all effect both style of bridal gown and the cost involved in renting or having one made that will help you to feel like the queen that you are on your special day.

Another area to research in advance is do you like beading, lace, simple, classic style, many layers, few layers. Spend a little time looking at some bridal magazines and images online. In today's time you can even have a look at wedding videos that go up online. The more you are prepared and have in mind what kind of look or style will suit you and your figure and also what will suit your venue the easier it will be for you to find the bridal gown that is just right for you.

Keep in mind also the time of year that your wedding will take place. If your wedding will be in winter, then you are more likely to want the thicker materials and possibly more layers as they will help to keep you warm. It is also important to find out the extent to which the wedding hall or venue will be heated. If you are having an indoor wedding with air conditioner or heating, make sure you find out details of possible temperature and ventilation. The last thing you want is the bride to overheat or become dizzy if the venue does not have enough ventilation and the focus is on heating while you are having a good time dancing. If you have ordered a dress with many layers and think material that does not breathe too well, lack of ventilation can be a problem for some. 

If on the other hand you will be getting married in summer, you are likely to want to thinner fabric. Of course, that does not have to mean see-through. It is possible to find modest gowns that are not too much of a strain on your system in terms of being thick and heavy. Once again you will want to know if the venue will be well ventilated. 

These are just some ideas that will help you in making your trip to a bridal gown Gemach or store more efficient and successful.

Once again, if you are in Jerusalem, please do stop by and visit our Bridal Gown Gemach. We love to meet knew Kallot and would be delighted if one of our gowns suited your needs and would be the perfect gown for your to rent. So do be in touch and come to visit us.


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