Thursday, 19 January 2017

Finding Solutions to Regular / Recurring Problems

In a previous blog post I share 7 tips for making an appointment with Chessed Ve'Emet. Since then, we have had further encounters / interactions with potential clients or those wanting our services that left us rather frustrated to say the least. We are noticing a trend of people making inquiries and not following through. Asking for me to call them and then avoiding the calls once I phone. Making an appointment and not showing. Sending in a fax and not following up as to whether it arrived etc. I could continue the list but rather than become frustrated I am mulling over another idea. If there are so many who are falling short of following through on something they begin to explore, is there a need for a book on social skills and possibly life skills for setting goals or for following through on goals. 

Where is the problem and what is your need? Would you enjoy reading a book or eBook or attending a course that will help you to:
  • make calls effectively
  • keep appointments that you have scheduled
  • set appropriate goals
  • set suitable action plans in order to achieve those goals
  • draw up a list of things to do according to your action plans
  • schedule time to achieve these goals and to follow through
  • learn how to say thank you when assistance is offered or provided
Please do me a favour and send in a comment as to which of these you would like to read more about. I look forward to hearing from you.

This post is prepared for you by
Occupational Therapist, healing facilitator, certified infant massage instructor, freelance writer and co-author of "Tuvia Finds His Freedom" and author of "Healing Your Life Through Activity - An Occupational Therapist's Story"

Tuesday, 3 January 2017

7 Tips to Making an Appointment with Chessed Ve'Emet

You have a goal, your goal is to receive assistance from Chessed Ve'Emet. That is fine, however, there is a way to go about doing so. There are many ways to set up an appointment. We recently had a call from someone. After I answered the phone his initial question was: "Can I come tonight?" It was a rather odd way to begin a conversation. After a little back tracking and exploring who the caller was and why he wanted to come it became evident that the person was inquiring for an orphan Chatan. 

Now you can just call and say can I come tonight but if you have not reached the correct number or the correct person or the office hours are not at night or there is a prior appointment, that manner of asking will not help you to reach your goal. 

For anyone interested in the services that we offer for orphan Chatanim and Kallot here are a few basic guidelines and some updates as to where we are currently at in our work:
  1. When calling anyone you do not know, especially one you wish to book an appointment to see, the first thing to do is to introduce yourself and follow this with a request for the person you wish to talk to
  2. Having established who you are and made sure that you are talking to the correct person, it is polite and appropriate to ask if x service is still being offered and whether there are any procedures, requirements or how it works
  3. Find out the persons office hours. If the person has hours that end at 5 pm or 6 pm or another day time hour, the chances are that going to them that night will not be possible. So find out what the office hours are.
  4. Included in finding out whether the service is still being offered, find out if any paper work is required. If the organization requires an interview then your next step will be to book an appointment for an interview.
  5. In the case of Chessed Ve'Emet, we do require a letter of approbation to be faxed in by a recognized, contactable rabbi for both the Chatan and the Kallah. In addition we require a letter from a social worker to outline the need that is involved and a letter from the Chatan / Kallah to briefly state why they are turning to us for help. The letter is very important as it helps us to know whether their situation is legitimate and whether their need is something we can assist with.
  6. Once the letters have been received and appropriate parties contacted, we will be in touch to book an interview. There is no getting out of the interview and we have no way of knowing what the needs are and hence what we might be able to do to assist if we are able to assist at all.
  7. Please note, we do not give money and also do not make promises. The main assistance that we currently offer is in the form of our Bridal Gown Gemach.  However any specifics and whether we can do anything further depends on the results of the needs assessment obtained via the letters and the interview, how much time there is before the wedding, what time we have available depending on other commitments.
     Following these 7 points are more likely to reached your desired goal than just inviting yourself to come at the time you want to and expect to receive a handout without even having the courtesy to introduce yourself.
    Hatzlachah with your process towards getting married

Sunday, 1 January 2017

Tips of Details to Prepare Before Renting Your Bridal Gown

I recently posted about how to lace up your bridal gown with corset and laces. In today's blog post I would like to touch on another common problem that I find from Kallot who come to our Bridal Gown Gemach. So far, only one Kallah had a vague idea of what kind of bridal gown she was looking for. Most come without any idea.

If you have not yet discovered your natural body type or shape, spend a little time getting to know it. Do you have small shoulders and broad hips? Are you petite or heavy set? Do you have any aspects of your figure that you would like to disguise or hide? Do you tend to prefer a certain style of neckline? Can you handle shoulder pads? Do you prefer a full skirt, a long skirt, a train? Are you tall or short? Do you have any idea what kind of shoes you would like to wear? The better you know yourself, what kind of clothing is flattering for you and what kind of image you are looking for, the easier it will be to shop for that perfect bridal gown for you.

Get to know types of fabric. Satin, silk, tulle, polyester, lace are all quite different and these are just 5 types of fabric. The type of fabric that your bridal gown is made of will have an impact on how warm it is or cool, how the fabric falls, how easily it might crease, whether or not the fabric is see-through. How heavy the bridal gown is will also be determined to an extent by both style of gown and type of fabric.

Fabrics made of natural fibers tend to breathe better. That is the positive side, the down side is they are the more expensive fabrics and also might crease more easily. These details will all effect both style of bridal gown and the cost involved in renting or having one made that will help you to feel like the queen that you are on your special day.

Another area to research in advance is do you like beading, lace, simple, classic style, many layers, few layers. Spend a little time looking at some bridal magazines and images online. In today's time you can even have a look at wedding videos that go up online. The more you are prepared and have in mind what kind of look or style will suit you and your figure and also what will suit your venue the easier it will be for you to find the bridal gown that is just right for you.

Keep in mind also the time of year that your wedding will take place. If your wedding will be in winter, then you are more likely to want the thicker materials and possibly more layers as they will help to keep you warm. It is also important to find out the extent to which the wedding hall or venue will be heated. If you are having an indoor wedding with air conditioner or heating, make sure you find out details of possible temperature and ventilation. The last thing you want is the bride to overheat or become dizzy if the venue does not have enough ventilation and the focus is on heating while you are having a good time dancing. If you have ordered a dress with many layers and think material that does not breathe too well, lack of ventilation can be a problem for some. 

If on the other hand you will be getting married in summer, you are likely to want to thinner fabric. Of course, that does not have to mean see-through. It is possible to find modest gowns that are not too much of a strain on your system in terms of being thick and heavy. Once again you will want to know if the venue will be well ventilated. 

These are just some ideas that will help you in making your trip to a bridal gown Gemach or store more efficient and successful.

Once again, if you are in Jerusalem, please do stop by and visit our Bridal Gown Gemach. We love to meet knew Kallot and would be delighted if one of our gowns suited your needs and would be the perfect gown for your to rent. So do be in touch and come to visit us.


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